I have been through a lot of really bad relationships. How can I learn to trust a guy again?

When choosing your companions in the future, keep the following five considerations in mind:

First, take your time before entering a relationship. Instead of worrying about trusting boyfriends in the future, begin to build innocent friendships with decent guys. This safe environment will help you to see that there are plenty of good guys out there.

Second, do not date someone if you cannot see yourself marrying him.

Third, do not marry someone unless his morals are as strong as yours.

Fourth, do not carry on a relationship with a guy who is unable to resist temptation. If he is unable to refuse temptation before marriage, how will he resist temptation within marriage? What woman wants to marry a guy who cannot say no to sex?

Finally, do not think that you always need to be in a relationship, especially if you are in high school. Take some time to enjoy being single. Having time to yourself is part of the healing process. In addition, having healthy, pure relationships will help to mend the wounds of the past.

I suppose the best way to know when you've found a good man is by hanging out with good guys among your friends and family. The more you get to know them and the qualities they possess, the more you will be able to recognize guys that resemble them and guys that do not. Recognize that the ones who are most like them are most worthy of trust, but do not be quick to give your heart away. The healing of wounds and the rebuilding of trust is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself in this process. It's perfectly natural that you would want to guard your heart right now. In time, you will see that some men deserve trust while others deserve none. May you have the wisdom and courage to know the difference.