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My boyfriend and I are trying to be pure. Is it wrong for us to discuss our temptations?

If you're trying to grow in purity, I would not recommend that you talk openly with your boyfriend about your temptations. While it's helpful to be clear about your standards and the boundaries of physical affection, there's no need to pour out your personal temptations. Doing so will only cause the both of you to think about them more frequently.

Imagine if you experience a particular temptation that he does not. After giving him this information, the temptation will not leave you. Instead, it will be transferred to him. Often, these discussions about temptations are just a cover-up to have a sexual conversation. To avoid this trap, talk to a role model or family member who you trust.

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