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I told my boyfriend we should be pure and he got quiet and upset. He consented, but was irritated that I made the decision on my own. We've been fighting more lately. He's perfect though, and I don't want to lose him. What do I do?Product:
Here are two guidelines already in your heart for knowing how much is too much:
These may seem like extreme guidelines, but I think they make sense for three reasons:
1. Girls often do not realize that guys are wired very differently when it comes to sexuality. A girl might have a passionate kiss, and be thinking about her warm fuzzy feelings or even about volleyball practice. She has no problem in her mind expecting that it will be able to stop there. Meanwhile, the guy's body works at a much faster pace, and his sexual desires are being ignited. In other words, although they're only on first base, his mind may be running past second or third. Perhaps the couple will stop, but gradually the old boundaries will be pushed back because they begin to experience the intoxicating bonding power that sexual intimacy creates. All too often, good relationships get demolished because the couple thought that they could safely sit on the fence of purity. Therefore, allow purity to become your superglue.
2. If you do not end up marrying him, you will never regret telling your future husband how pure you were with an ex boyfriend.
3. If you do end up marrying him, then you'll have all the more excitement to share within marriage. In the meantime, you'll spend more time learning how to express non-physical forms of intimacy that will deepen your love.