I don't have a problem with being "friends with benefits" with a guy. Is that bad?

I recently read an interview with a guy who was asked what he thought of girls who were his friends with benefits. He said he considered them to be "somewhere between a girlfriend and a hooker." I think that every woman on earth knows in her heart that he's right. "Friends with benefits" is another term for free prostitution. Both partners are being used, and each time a person subjects themselves to it, they lose respect for themselves and for the other person. So, why would a girl do it?

Often behind the "friends with benefits," label is a girl hoping to win over the heart of a guy by giving him sexual favors. I remember one girl saying, "I figured if he was happy then maybe, just maybe I was one step closer to getting him back." Girls may act as if they're detached and satisfied, but that's called denial. No matter what she says or how big she pretends to smile, every woman knows that she is not designed to be disposable. As a little girl, no one dreams of meeting the knight in shining armor, and being his friend with benefits.

Sometimes, when a girl feels used, she tries all the more to keep the relationship and rehabilitate it, so that she'll never have to admit that it was unhealthy. If she can cling to the guy long enough for him to stay, then she assumes that no big mistakes were really made. If he leaves, then she is faced with her greatest fear: that she gave away both her heart and her body to a man who didn't love her for who she was. He loved her for what she gave him. For this reason, such a woman is often fearful of making a true commitment to purity. It's not that she's unable to be pure. Rather, she isn't sure how to keep a guy interested without offering him something physical. In the absence of true love, she settles for the emotional high of being wanted and desired. But, at the very heart of her "relationship" is a lack of peace. A fear.

There's a battle going on in her mind. In one instant, she longs for the peace that comes with a pure relationship. Only with real, lasting purity, can you know the true value of your love. Through the whole battle for purity, a guy comes to appreciate a woman as a gift to be received, not some goal to be conquered.

I remember one woman who said how great it was to be in a relationship where the man actually protected her purity. She felt so cherished, and had such a sense of peace. With their purity, he was able to show her in a million different ways how much he loved her, without ever doing anything to her that she would never want her father to know about. With that came such a peace of being loved.

You deserve this peace. But if you want it, you must decide to live purely and refuse to settle for compromises and counterfeits of love. After all, you were made for love, but love can only thrive in the presence of commitment.