My ex-boyfriend is seeing this other girl, but he called me the other night. It was really cold, and he offered to come over and keep me warm. I told him not to, but I feel torn, because I really want him back. Why do I still feel attracted to him?

I'm glad to hear that you turned down his offer to provide his heating services.

What you're realizing is that no matter how much of a cheater or a jerk a guy might be, a girl is always drawn to some extent to the fact that she is desired. There's something flattering in it. But just as you had the guts to turn down his offer to cheat with you, I know you have the guts to turn him down so that he won't end up cheating on you. Stay far, far away.

You know how they say a dog can sense fear? My wife owns this really nippy Chihuahua, and when I come to pick him up to move him to his bed at night, he'll try to rip one of my fingers off if I seem afraid. On the other hand, when I approach him with confidence, he'll let me grab him. In the same way, a guy can sense when you don't have a strong will, and he'll try to wear it down. When he senses strength (which I know you have), he'll back away and give up. Even if you don't feel you have it, then as they say, "fake it til you make it." If you can discourage him, he'll eventually leave you alone, and will quit trying to use you.

So continue to avoid his presence, and to hold your standards high, no matter where your feelings are trying to tug you.